Opening the Door to Interdependence

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I am beginning to think that independence can lead to isolation, if it does not lead to relationship.

Independence is something that we can cling to for so long that it can begin to harden us, and suddenly we become afraid of loss. All lessons on the joy of sharing are lost. It is then a matter of protecting this independence.

I will speak from my experience that I have begun to gain independence only recently. On a personal level that means increased self-sufficiency, a great acceptance of being alone, a stronger foundation, healthier relationships that I am not dependent on, financial security, and greater flexibility to help others. I have space in my life, both physical space in my home and a clearer mind. There is no one who needs me to feed them right now, and my schedule is up to me. That is all I know right now. I am sure there is much more to know about this power and freedom.

10491094_701362683276743_1782697023388242020_nIt is beautiful, necessary, and I am learning about power in the process. However, I’ve started to look at this as unstable in the long run. What is all this independence for? All I need to do is look at an elderly woman I know who “just can’t seem to live with people” and “likes her solitude”, yet has few resources to help her survive through hard times and expresses a lack of purpose in the world. I am worried about her.If we hold on the this independent phase in life, we can truly miss out on strong, life-holding relationships.

The catch is, you have to give your life to something. Does this sound threatening?

You’d have to be responsible.

“Here you not only make room in your life for other relationships, but you give your life in service.”-Thresholds

 

I ask myself periodically if I’m ready for this greater threshold. I have begun to feel protective of my new found freedom, as if I have discovered a secret that every person, every woman should know. Being alone and doing everything possible to support myself is new territory. Sure, I would have preferred it happened earlier, but there is no room for regret now.
From this cautious perspective, making plans can appear restrictive. Every interaction comes into question. I am concerned about being drained. But I know there must be people to whom I must give myself.

“Because we live in a culture that worships independence, many of us tend to demonize any degree of dependence and see it as weakness. In order to avoid the judgments of others (and ourselves) many of us try to conceal the dependence that is intrinsic to our nature as humans. We are, after all interdependent, social beings that require involvement with others in order to meet our intrinsic physical and emotional needs and to grow and thrive.” -The Myth of Independence

 

At this point, I do not even yet know what Interdependence will feel like. I expect only that I will be rightfully disillusioned from my fantasies and fears about it. Below, this quote exposes us to a greater view of the word “marriage”:

“True marriage is when you exchange a small self for the greater self without losing your individuality.” -Relationships and Higher Purpose

I crave interdependence. I have heard that God is the sum of all relationships- so who am I to stand apart?

On days when my mind is ready, when I am close to myself and feeling a sense of my world, existing in space among many, the concept of interdependence expands to include our nations and peoples.

“As humanity’s idea of itself changes, its social institutions and structures will change as well. Fundamentally, you will begin to see yourself as a member of your world, not simply as a member of a nation or of a group or of a religion or of a culture or of an extended family or of a political persuasion. All of these things will be overshadowed by the presence of the Greater Community, which will make them increasingly insignificant. As this realization is passed from one generation to another, national interests will change, with a greater emphasis on interdepence with other nations and on mutual survival and well-being.” -Greater Community Spirituality, Marshall Vian Summers

 

May we immerse ourselves in shared identity, only after passing through the strength-building rite of passage that is human independence.

May we lose our fear of joining, and walk into the hearts of others.

May we accept the blessing of the Great Love.

Hear this man, who has witnessed the voice of God, speak on the symptoms of being out of relationship, and has experienced a restoration through what is known to us as the New Message from God.

8 Universal Truths About Women

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You know by now that women have been historically oppressed around the world.

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But what might not pop into your awareness are the consequences of this, and the truths that run deeper than simply giving women a vote and equal pay.  I share with you 8 things that this planet would benefit from knowing about the plan for women’s ascension.

 

 

 

1) We are fiercely feared by men. Deeply engrained, but not too deep to undo, is a fear of the true power of women. It is nearly impossible to do some clear and wise thinking through fear. What has been the response to fear? Oppression.

“When we’re afraid, we lose all sense of analysis and reflection. Our fear paralyzes us. Besides, fear has always been the driving force behind all dictators’ repression.” -Marjane Satrapi, The Complete Persepolis

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“Men have been so afraid of women’s power that they have denied them of their natural-born roles” – The Age of Women

 

 

 

 

2) We’re meant to be epic empaths. One of the natural abilities of women is to share and understand another’s experience. Below is a quote regarding the nature of the feminine throughout the universe of intelligent life, ready or not!

“In planetary races very different from your own, the feminine is recognized as being more receptive to the direction of spirit, or God, while men in general—in most situations, the male aspect—are more competent in physical or practical measures” -The New Message from God

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This empathy has been drastically misunderstood and suppressed.

“Female empathy has a tremendous magnetism. Back in the Middle Ages they were being persecuted and accused of witchcraft. Modern ‘witches’ become opinion leaders, trends creators, or lonely meditative secludes, unable to handle the flow of attention and people’s demands.” - Sofia Siberia

3) Holding back women actually holds back the evolution of Earth and could be to our demise. The thing about keeping women’s power in check by the standard of men’s imagination is that no one gets to grow.

“If you’re going to hold someone down you’re going to have to hold on by the other end of the chain. You are confined by your own repression.”-Toni Morrison 

To continue to deny women power in leadership roles is a huge mistake for the planet.

“The world today would look different if women were allowed to ascend. It would not be magically wonderful. It would have many problems still, but you would have fewer people in the world today and would be better prepared for the Great Waves of Change that are coming to the world…. And there would be greater and wiser leadership within the realm of religion and spirituality.” – The Age of Women

4) In rare cases, women can become great seers. For women who have this destiny, it is vital to prepare.

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“Seers, however, are a very rare role and require a very special preparation. If someone who has the gift of vision is not well grounded as a human being, is not strong in the Four Pillars of their life—their relationships, their health, their work and their spiritual development—their vision can be greatly misapplied and misinterpreted … There are very few individuals who can be seers and not all of them will be women, but these gifts have been given to the feminine in far greater abundance, and there are women today who are meant to be seers. That is their purpose.” – Seers

 

“A seer can know of things which are past, and also of things which are to come, and by them shall all things be revealed, or, rather, shall secret things be made manifest, and hidden things shall come to light.”- Mormon Women as Natural Seers, Ian Barber 

5) Women are never the possession of men, regardless of what culture will say. Women are still screaming to get the world to listen: “This body is mine!” in protests around the world against rape and other horrific crimes against women. That is where we are now. In addition to this, our lives are our own, our paths, our destinies.

“Until recently, in most societies in the world, women were considered to be simply the possession of men—a valuable possession, but a possession, something you could buy or sell or trade or destroy—and that is one of the reasons that human civilization has progressed so very slowly.”- The Age of Women72582728_020450883-1

6) One way to cultivate a girl’s natural abilities for her future is to separate them from boys at an early age. 

“Sexuality prematurely is damaging. It is preemptive. It shifts a person’s focus before they have gained a sense of themselves and their direction in life. And it is true that young boys and girls who had not had a lot of social exposure in this way later went on to become real contributors and successful in their endeavors in life.” - Quotes about Children

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“In everyday life in schools, romantic meanings infuse some ritualized interaction between groups of boys and girls (such as ‘chase and kiss’)…Cross-sex interactions are fraught with being teased about “liking” someone of the opposite sex.” -Education and Gender Equality

7) Women are not meant to displace men in any way. Though it may seem at times that feminist arguments may be to push men aside and take over, this is not what is meant to be.

“I do not wish them [women] to have power over men; but over themselves.” - Mary WollstonecraftA Vindication of the Rights of Woman

“Nature expresses itself differently within different contexts, and while there will still be women who will be marvelous leaders of commerce and political leaders, and there will still be men who will be superb at being religious teachers and leaders, there is a natural orientation that gives the feminine, the woman, the advantage.” – The New Message from God

8) A woman’s role may be to fly solo. Hard to swallow? Below is one of the heaviest statements I have ever read, but an undeniable Universal Truth at the same time:

“The great spiritual leadership in the time to come will be primarily given to women, for this is the Age of the Women. Part of the restructuring of society is for this purpose, and it is happening naturally. Therefore, many women will become true leaders. The disappointment for these women is that they cannot take men with them. These women I speak of who have a true calling to be spiritual leaders, rarely will they be able to take a man with them.That is part of their maturity. It is going unchaperoned into a greater life.” – Wisdom from the Greater Community

“Not every woman is meant to be a mother in a household. To deny them their greater purpose and expression in the world is to deny humanity the benefit of their gifts and to imprison them. This was never God’s will and intent. Women were not created merely to be servants to men. They have their own purpose and destiny in the world.” – Religion and Politics

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May you be with these realities about the destiny of our planet. We have long needed strong and free women in this world who decide to take the path that is most natural- one that walks to God. These women will never truly walk alone.

 

Is it my purpose, or did I make it up?

“Without Knowledge, you will identify with your mind. You will think that your mind is who you are. You will think that your thoughts represent you, define you, govern you and determine your experience.” – Greater Community Spirituality

 

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When you’re in the middle of learning, it’s not easy to see your progress. Quite often, people give themselves a label mid-progress. You’ve done it. You look around, your human brain puts some pieces together, combined with some past experiences, and you whip up a decision based on all of that. Clearly you were destined for this job, this relationship, it’s all coming together!

You’ve just justified your current position. Good job.

Did you know that this shuts you off from the journey you’re on? I’m happy for you that you are aware of your greatness and all, but there is so much more than our plans.

You’ve heard the saying “Want to make God laugh, tell [him/her/God] your plans.” Well, whether you get nauseous with the word “God” or you consider yourself part of one of the world’s religions- Guess what?! You’re here, and you didn’t send yourself here with a blueprint of your creating.

“The answer is, who you are cannot be defined through thinking or mental labels or definitions, because it’s beyond that. It is the very sense of being, or presence, that is there when you become conscious of the present moment. In essence, you and what we call the present moment are, at the deepest level, one.” – Eckhart Tolle

 

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Part of it is that we are uncomfortable with not knowing. We love reasons.

“You may feel quite insecure when you enter these states of unknowing, but in reality this is coming into the clear within yourself. This is being without resolutions but with an open and inquiring mind. This is not a passive approach. It is highly active because here you must be very attentive, very focused and ready to act.” -Greater Community Spirituality.

 

So your purpose is greater than you think.

Another thing to remember is that your purpose must relate to this world in a way. Why would you be placed here for a brief time in a body, if your purpose was do to intergalactic battle, or play with angels, or engage in mental fantasy or exist in seclusion? Simply said, it is sometimes thought that you have something other to do than be here now. It is a constant struggle to stay separate from reality. Who’s winning? Does it sound disappointing to you that you came here to be here? Were you hoping your purpose was a bit more magical?

“Everyone was sent into the world to be in the world at this time, to face these great and emerging circumstances. So to claim it is too much for you is simply to admit your weakness and to not recognize your responsibility to prepare.” – The New Message

It’s quite possible that Oprah gets it. Below, she mentions adds the word “calling” to the mix. Perhaps calling can be defined by what your purpose asks of you. It is something that requires an answer, based on the skills you’ve accrued by participating with your purpose in life.

“There is no greater gift you can I’ve or receive by honoring your calling. It’s why you were born. And how you become most truly alive.” - Oprah

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Here, the Dalai Lama discusses compassion among other things as skills to be with your purpose.

And one man’s testimony in Germany regarding his way of finding his purpose- I like this one because of his eloquence in speaking, combined with a truth that just cuts to the point- hard to argue with.

To stop labeling yourself, which is to stand up from the side of the road and continue following the signs, is to truly follow a path to freedom. It is a restoring, revitalizing way of being. This is a great life you live, far greater than you can feel with your hands or see with your eyes.

Come as you are, without definition.

The Seven Secrets to Hearing God’s Voice

God speaking to the world through individuals is what has kept the light aflame within earthly religions. Have you considered how people come closer to God – how they participate and truly hear? With some research, I have compiled the seven most successful secrets to hearing God’s voice.

Secret One: Release attachment from ideas. I have noticed that though I may carry ideas and past associations, hearing God’s voice is in part just listening below the ideas themselves. God won’t speak to your ideas- so allowing them to pass over like clouds, and suspending the intellect for a time, is key.

“You must become still and listen with your heart here. Your ideas will be struggling. They will be struggling to keep up. They will be trying to calculate and comprehend this, but they cannot, you see. For this is not a message for the intellect.” – How God Speaks to the World

Here is a video related to listening below these ideas:

Secret Two: You are not a passive observer. A challenging secret to hearing God’s voice is to be an active participant in the relationship. Can you prepare? Do you think God would want to give you a great request if you were not prepared?

“We can’t be passive, sit back and just expect that we will hear God without preparing ourselves in any way” – Soul Shepherding

Secret Three: Practice. Another secret well known to a consistent man or woman of God would be practice. How has the voice I trusted served me in the past? Looking at the outcome, was this God speaking to me, or my desires?

“It is by practicing, by reason of use, that we are able to discern whether what we hear is of God” – Seven Keys to Hearing God’s Voice

Seven secrets to hearing God's voiceSecret Four: Allow the mind to rest. Described below in a teaching of the New Message from God, we need reprieve to receive!

“Therefore, the student seeks to give the mind reprieve and rest so that it can restore itself and renew itself. This rest is needed if the mind is to be employed for greater things, if it is to be focused and directed, if it is to be effective as a tool for perception and a tool for communication.” – Parting the Veil of the Mind

Secret Five: An honest approach. I have been told that I must not be with a person while wanting from them. Well, I must not be with God in a state of wanting, begging. I do not know what to teach myself, and I do not understand my situation clearly, always. An honest approach leaves space for God to come in. It leaves room for the mystery.

“God does not reveal Himself to every casual onlooker who would take sacred things and play with them like toys. I have known some adults who treated the gifts of God as if they were just little baubles to play with. To please God and to receive counsel from Him, people must be both determined and serious.” – Pat’s Perspective

“True honesty brings about the ability to wait, the ability to evaluate oneself constructively, the ability to discern, the ability to not speak when that is appropriate, the ability to speak when that is appropriate, the ability to follow a Greater Power within you, the ability to abide with what is known, and the ability to avoid or step away from what is harmful or untrue”- Wisdom from the Greater Community, Vol. 2: Honesty

Secret Six: Accept that God may say “no” more than “yes.” God’s voice will not sound like you want it to all the time. Many people report feeling a sense of restraint that proves to be life saving.

“[God] will hold you back from many things. You are not used to holding yourself back, and that is why your life has been a series of dilemmas and even catastrophes. It is going to save you for something greater. But first, you must stop committing the same mistakes, making the same foolish assumptions, the same mindless decisions. You must slow down. You must stop. You must take time to practice listening—listening for Knowledge, listening to develop the listening ability, the intention and the capacity within yourself.” – Listening for Knowledge

Secret Seven: Time. Even if you follow all of the secrets, you have a lifetime of unlearning to do! Patience with yourself here is important. You will not be able to unlock the mystery of God’s voice, and you will not be able to hear it overnight, or even be certain every single time. 

“This will take time because you are undoing years and years of habit, years and years of preoccupation, years and years of self-obsession or the obsession over other things or people. You are counteracting your social conditioning, which is powerful and overwhelming until you break free of it. So this will take time and daily application.” – Listening for Knowledge

Blessings on your journey, and may you hear what must be done in your life.

To “Die Before You Die”

What does it mean to “Die before you die?” When you hear this, does your mind conjure images of near-death experiences where a light is seen- perhaps the light that illuminates your life and brings clarity, therefore creating a “born again” experience? Is this a Christian concept? Muslim? New Age? Is it a good thing? What has God said about this before, and what does God say now?

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The Islamic mystic Abd al-Kader wrote of this. He said,

“There are two types of death: one which is inevitable and common to all, and one which is voluntary and experienced by a few. It is the second death which Muhammad prescribed saying, ‘Die before you die.’ Those who die this voluntary death are resurrected.”

Eckhardt Tolle directly tells us that this is “a secret” and all that matters, here:

“Death is a stripping away of all that is not you. The secret of life is to “die before you die” — and find that there is no death.”

From these quotes we find this preliminary death as one that is 1) a choice and 2) An unburdening. It is a series of actions that we need to take to release ourselves from.. ourselves, apparently!

The voice of God now, through the New Message from God, says the following on this unburdening:

“God’s first purpose is to unburden you. This is the process of unburdening. Liberation from the past will occur as you engage with Knowledge because Knowledge is not oriented toward your past. It only seeks to lead you forward. As you can be led forward and find your way, then the past will become ever more distant and remote to you. The memories, the difficulties, the tragedies and the happiness will all fade. This will enable you to be more and more present in the moment, more whole within yourself and more open to others”truther-memes-remove-the-ego

This release of the ego can feel like a great loss, a great emptiness at first. A death of your ideas & former identity before it is replaced by a new one can be confounding. Who is ready to “die” like this? It must take great courage to stand on a bridge between old and new.

Is this so different than our fears of actual death? Do people not commit suicide because their ideas of self are not being fulfilled? There is a lot to consider here.

“As your identity becomes founded in Knowledge and not merely on ideas, speculation or beliefs, you will begin to experience the permanence and security that only Knowledge can bestow. As you realize that your true life is changeless, then you will feel free to allow it to express itself in changing circumstances. Here you will escape all fear of death and destruction.” – from Steps to Knowledge

I wondered what would occur if we did not seek this first definition of death- the stripping away. The picture of that life is painted here:

“It is when you stop meeting challenges that your life begins to wane and that the process of death begins for you. Whenever you stop meeting challenges, you begin to die. As long as you meet challenges, you will exert life, you will stimulate life and you will have life.” – from Relationships & Higher Purpose

You have seen this before, no? Someone who has stopped trying, whose mind has become rigid because they stopped stirring the cement?

Let this not be us, who seek to be free. The voice of God has spoken on the Great Unburdening over time, and speaks to us now as we prepare to face far greater challenges than simply our egos.

Further reading on death

What is Knowledge vs ideas, as mentioned above?

House of Ideas: Possessions are more than your shoe collection

I was excited when I saw that the God of all worlds was speaking to us on possessions. A whole chapter in Wisdom from the Greater Community dedicated to ownership in the world.

“This is going to speak to me and prove me right,” I thought to myself. I had decided that my approach to life, of paring down my belongings to what could fit in a backpack, was best, and here I was going to settle on the floor (because I didn’t have a couch of course) to have my zen, minimalist lifestyle totally validated by the Lord of the Universe.

Without having studied Christianity, where God had spoken previously, I’d say I was in line with taking this quote literally: “If you want to be perfect, go, sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven.” – Jesus. 2306

Perfect? Count my self-punishing, perfectionist personality in!

That quote can easily have us judging people with a lot of “stuff.” OK, I definitely did, and try not too, still.

I then dove in this chapter in Wisdom, which is one of the many teachings of the New Message from God. What is God going to tell us about our “stuff”? I found out I was only hitting the tip of the iceberg when I considered material things alone:

“The ways that people relate to their possessions and how they relinquish themselves to their possessions can be recognized in many, many forms of expression.”

You mean I am collecting thoughts?

I felt disappointed, and less and less impressed with myself for owning one spoon. But I could relate to this. God has a “perfect” way of finding us where we’re at, and taking it from there. And God can find all of us. Can you find yourself in here?

“Some people collect objects. Others collect ideas. Part of the attraction of collecting ideas is having exciting thoughts and having the thrill of having an insight, which is like the thrill of buying a new thing—perhaps a new garment, which you have the thrill of wearing for a few days, and then it just becomes a garment, one more thing. People often value insights in the same way. They have an insight, and oh, they are excited, and they think it is so meaningful. They walk around proudly with it and share it eagerly with their friends. Then after a few days, well, it’s just another thought to add to millions of other thoughts that are already there.”

Then.. uh-oh:

Some people think owning things is disdainful, and so they go and collect ideas. Some people collect spiritual practices. Other people collect spiritual artifacts. Collect, collect, collect—whether it is objects or ideas—collect, collect, collect, until you are swollen and glutted with all this, and it all seems to fill up the emptiness within you that is a calling for Knowledge.”

Well OK, what do I do when I find myself swimming in ideas about myself? An empty home, or a transient life, but I have filled up my mind with thoughts about who I should be, based on who I was, based on my family’s ideas, or rebellion? Here it appears to be a mistake of attempting to control the outer life with rigid ideas, by creating a visible experience of simplicity, while underneath the calm surface, there is a pile of garbage that all started building up at some point in the ’80′s.

images-11Where is the balance?  A good way to begin is to ask yourself what you really need- as far as objects in the world and your ideas. Are you buying something that you think you’ll need later? Are you buying something because you’re afraid? Is that fear or caution speaking, by the way? In comparing objects to ideas, are they well-made? Can they sustain throughout varied times in your life? Is that idea about yourself really working NOW? You know, that idea about who you are, that you made up when you were 22? “Oh I don’t do that… that’s not me..” are you sure? Are you buying another pair of shoes that will only walk you a quarter way up the mountain?<

Speaking to the exhaustion of pursuing our collection based on what we think: “We preoccupy ourselves with what we had — or what we want to have — at the expense of what we have.” 
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

Another refreshing point was about “leaving space” in your life. You need an opening! Where can the truth fit in, if you’ve decided who you are already and what you need? Like shoe boxes piled to your ceiling, and a spare room full of exercise equipment you do not use, where are your true needs going to fit?

Here’s a little song I wrote about evaluating your possessions and ideas, years after encountering this teaching from God:

I think of a world where a large number of people begin to lighten their burden and create openings. All of a sudden the rays of sun and shine into your heart and windows because you’ve rid yourself of the objects casting shadows and blocking the light. You can see your neighbor. You can see people who have been standing there, peeking in once in a while to see if they are allowed in. What have your ideas blocked you from? It is not too late.

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“The man and woman of Knowledge want economy because they need time to focus on Knowledge and on learning greater things. They cannot be bogged down with objects, ideas or people that are not part of their greater pursuit. This is economy, and this is important. As you progress and study The Greater Community Way of Knowledge, gradually things fall away, not because they are bad but simply because they are no longer needed. You cannot use them. You don’t want to carry a lot of extra baggage. Your life, in a sense, is becoming streamlined. Your burden is getting lighter. Now you can assume greater responsibilities.”

Further reading: Quotes on Wealth

God of the Greater Community

“You must think of God now in the Greater Community – not a human God, not a God of your written history, not a God of your trials and tribulations, but a God for all time, for all races, for all dimensions, for those who are primitive and for those who are advanced, for those who think like you and for those who think so differently, for those who believe and for those for whom belief is inexplicable. This is God in the Greater Community. And this is where you must begin.”

From Greater Community Spirituality